Engaged Engagement-How To Stay Engaged While You’re Engaged

Congratulations, you’re ENGAGED! Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things you will be doing in your life. You and your Fiance(e) have taken the step from committed relationship to preparing to spend the rest of your lives together. This is HUGE.

With more couples paying for and planning their own weddings these days, the stress is on you more than ever before. You feel excited and over-the-moon for your future together and so you take your planning in stride. You know it’s going to be stressful but because you proposed or said yes you KNOW it’s going to be all worth it.

What couples don’t understand when they begin planning their wedding is they need to spend more time enjoying each other instead of just being totally focused on the planning.

I have compiled a few tips to help you enjoy your fiance and the wedding planning a little more.

Make One Night All About The Both of You

Designate one night per week where you do not discuss the wedding, AT ALL. Spend the time doing your favorite things, getting to know each other more, or just enjoying each other’s company. Let the stress of the wedding fade away as if you are not planning a wedding. This is the number one rule for a reason.

Find Someone Else

No, I don’t mean you need to re-think your fiance. I’m talking about if the wedding is getting too stressful, delegate some of the duties to the Maid Of Honor, Best Man, or a trusted family member. You don’t have to do everything yourself and I’m sure there are plenty of people willing to help you out if you ask.

Keep The Romance Alive

Keep in mind through all the stress, the reasons why you chose this person. Remember to always show them that you still love and care about them despite your blow out fight over salmon pink or champagne colored napkins.

Learn To Compromise With Your Soon-To-Be-In-Laws

I get it, you’re frustrated with your in-laws. They keep stepping in and wanting you to change things or add things that maybe you aren’t comfortable with. The best thing either of you can do is learn to compromise with them. It shows your soon-to-be-spouse that since you are going to be with them forever, you are willing to work with their family. In turn it also shows the in-laws that you are willing to work with them. It could help them back off a little bit.

Be Present And Mindful

You are planning your wedding! It’s an exciting time. Don’t let your honeymoon come and you realize that you never stopped to savor any of the planning. You didn’t stop to take pictures of you both tasting the cake. You didn’t post your progress to your family and friends. You just mundanely moved from one task to the next. This is a regret I’ve heard a lot of couples say they have. So always remember to be in the moment, the stress won’t be as bad and you’ll ultimately enjoy each other’s company more.


I hope you enjoyed and use these tips. Your relationship is the center of the wedding and I hope you keep that in mind. You don’t want to get to your wedding and look at your almost-spouse and realize there’s no romance left. You also don’t want to be thinking “I’m glad this is all over.” Being engaged is a joyous occasion. I urge you to enjoy it.



11 thoughts on “Engaged Engagement-How To Stay Engaged While You’re Engaged”

  1. I love this! It has been a while since I was engaged, but I remember telling myself to slow down and enjoy the moment. It can get SO overwhelming when you are planning, so spending time together without talking wedding is a GREAT tip.

    1. Ashley Wagstaff

      That’s how I was too! We were so stressed about our wedding (people were backing out of the bridal party and others were backing out of paying, which is fine we weren’t forcing them to pay) and ended up going to Las Vegas to get married instead of the wedding we were originally planning. I spent so much time stressing, that I didn’t really enjoy our engagement period. I don’t want other couples to be like that!

  2. I love everything about this post! It’s so frustrating to see brides overly worked up over planning, that they forget why they are getting married in the first place. When I got engaged, I ditched the big wedding just to simply avoid the pitfalls. Having a small, destination wedding was still the best choice all around even a year later! 🙂 Great read!

    1. Ashley Wagstaff

      It is! Because that’s what I did, I spent so much time stressing that I didn’t actually stop to enjoy the time between getting engaged and getting married. :/ We ended up going to Vegas to get married because everything started falling apart. I wish we would have just planned on Vegas in the first place, it would have been so much less stressful and I could have actually enjoyed being engaged.

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